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Divorce is one of the most emotionally difficult and stressful times of anyone’s life.

Sound financial planning may not be the first thing on a divorcing couple’s mind. However, it should be one of the first considerations addressed. Many times, during the hostility and in some cases out-right war of a divorce, people make mistakes or become so frustrated and worn down that they give up, give in and fail to secure their financial future. Too often they leave themselves vulnerable and with a financial picture that is unsustainable and often unrecoverable.

It is important during this time NOT to ignore your current and future financial circumstances. It also may be extremely important and worthwhile to bring a financial professional in to consult and help evaluate a couple’s options for the benefit of both parties’ financial future.

The truth is, in many divorces, a person’s current and future well-being may be impacted more than any other aspect of their lives going forward. Parties to a divorce may be forced to make major financial decisions in a short period of time without properly reflecting upon their options. Being in a highly stressed and emotionally charged environment, trying to handle the termination and dissolution of their marriage is NOT the environment to make such impactful decisions. 

Just by its very nature, this is not a good recipe for sound decision making. That is why it is most important to have the right professionals to guide and help you through this process.

The collaborative process offers a team of professionals (including a trained Financial Professional) who are there to help and guide you, as well as work towards a creative solution so that all members of a family survive in the best of circumstances, notwithstanding the devastating effects that a divorce may have.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Andrew Osterland, cnbc(dot)com
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Covid-19 has created so many unforeseen circumstances.  For many it has created more stress; however, for some it has actually created positive results.  For this divorced couple who were forced to co-parent differently as a result of Covid, it has actually strengthened their relationship.

In this Divorce Den episode, New York based Collaborative Divorce Attorney Liz Vaz speaks with Concetta G. Spirio, Esq. to explore how divorce in New York has evolved — and how Collaborative divorce and mediation are transforming the way couples separate.

Topics:
How New York divorce laws have changed in recent years.
Why staying out of court can reduce stress, costs, and emotional strain.
How alternative divorce options empower and protect the LGBTQ+ community.

If you’re thinking about protecting your family and your future when getting divorced in New York, this video offers practical legal frameworks, compassion, and real-world insights from two experienced NY attorneys.

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As I have stressed many times in the past, alternative disputed resolution processes, such as Mediation and Collaborative Divorce, are the better paths to take to resolve conflicts outside the court system.  Notwithstanding what these lawyers think, you should first research a divorce lawyer...my suggestion is to first look into alternative disputes professionals like mediators and collaborative divorce attorneys.  I would even go so far as to seek out a collaborative divorce lawyer first, since if you are not aware of how the processes work, you will at least get the perspective of what happens in litigation verses mediation and collaborative divorce.  They can help guide you on what is best for you and your family. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Kelsey Borresen, HuffPost(dot)com
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This article discusses several perils of divorce later in life.  Unfortunately, gray divorce as it is known is becoming more common and creates its own unique challenges. 

Finances can be extremely complicated, especially when a couple has planned for many years together.  Unwinding that to move on separately can become very difficult. 

The effects on adult children also should not be underestimated.  Divorce affects every child, regardless of age. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Ann Gold Buscho Ph.D., PsychologyToday(dot)com
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Most people are aware there is a statistic that says 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Today this is not totally accurate based upon the choice of some not to marry and a slight decrease in the divorces due to various reasons. 

This article gives food for thought, when you see signs that your marriage is not working out. Like you can’t remember the last time you were intimate; you want your spouse to change, but they just can’t. These are all items to consider in evaluating your relationship and/or seeking a way to make the marriage work. 

If you truly are facing a dissolution of your marriage or you have a major conflict to resolve, there are better ways than going through the court system. The Collaborative Process, to resolve conflict, and, if necessary, help a couple or family through divorce, is an amazing process that is not only more cost efficient but a more holistic approach, giving your family the confidence, confidentiality and tools to survive what could be a devastating event in your life. 

If you have any question, please feel free to call my office for a free fifteen (15) minute consultation. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Brand Partner Agency, VillageVoice(dot)com
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Love languages fundamentally influence how people express and receive affection in relationships.

Introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman, these five approaches to emotional connection—words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch—serve as pathways to intimacy and understanding.

Yet research suggests one particular love language, when unfulfilled, may function as an early warning sign of relationship trouble and potential divorce.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Digital Hearts, rollingout(dot)com
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Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) is quickly becoming one of the most popular methods for resolving legal disputes. Instead of pursuing a lengthy trial that is expensive and can result in an outcome with which nobody is happy, ADR offers more efficient options for settling disputes. One of the more common ADR methods is mediation.

What is Mediation?
Mediation is a way to settle a dispute without litigation. It involves the disputing parties and a neutral third-party mediator. Often, disputes are settled in as little as a single mediation session, which might last only a few hours. Disputing parties have complete control of the resolution and the mediator is there only to ensure the resolution is legal and that the parties use effective communication and remain focused on resolution. Essentially, the mediator facilitates discussion so disputing parties can resolve a problem. If disputing parties believe they will need additional support during the mediating process, they have the option of choosing collaborative mediation. Like basic mediation, this process is efficient and keeps the control in the hands of the disputing parties, but it provides them with the support of a team of experts that offer counsel during the process. Each party can have his or her own legal representation, and other professional experts might also play a role in the process, including those familiar with financial, psychological, or real estate issues.

What are the Benefits of Collaborative Mediation?
In general, mediation is beneficial because it saves time and money. Collaborative mediation offers these benefits, but it is a better solution when cases are complex or when disputing parties are uncomfortable making legal decisions without sufficient resources. Collaborative mediation is solution oriented with the party’s needs and desires dictating a resolution. Although the parties may be represented by attorneys this is not an adversarial process but again a solution oriented process. For instance, if decisions are to be made during mediation about splitting marital property and the mediator is not an expert in real estate law, collaborative mediation allows an attorney or a real estate expert to provide information during the mediation process. Collaborative mediation is especially helpful during divorce proceedings because there are so many sensitive issues at play. Approximately 40% of divorcing couples are parents and just as concerned about the well-being of their children, as they are for their own. As parents you will always be connected in some fashion to the father or mother of your children. Both Mediation and Collaborative mediation help salvage a working relationship between the parties and provide the tools to go forward in the future. Divorce proceedings include a variety of issues and having expert advice from various fields helps make the decision-making process easier. According to Divorce Magazine, the average length of divorce proceedings is one year. Mediation can shorten this transition period, making it possible for families to move forward and begin their new lives. If you are involved in a legal dispute and you believe traditional litigation will do more harm than good, mediation is an option. Collaborative mediation provides a way to settle a dispute efficiently, but without the uncertainty you might feel using basic mediation.