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LI Divorce Rates Fell 31.6% During First Year of the Coronavirus Pandemic

Posted On: September 28, 2021

Although divorce rates did go up and many more cases were predicted for divorce rates to increase dramatically during Covid, Long Island divorce rates actually fell 31.6% during the first year of the pandemic.

Much of this is attributed by experts to limited court operations since the courts were essentially closed completely and then only became available through electronic filings for divorce and very limited conference or accessibility, unless you had an actual “dire emergency” that qualified for the court.  

The fact that the courts were unavailable to people and still have limited availability to everyone, has not changed the need for people to have intervention or help in their marital circumstances.

This is why the Collaborative Process is so vital.  It helps spouses and families navigate all the issues that are required to be addressed in a divorce proceeding without the necessity of the court system.  In essence, “court intervention” would only be required for the actual filing of divorce papers.  The parties could negotiate all other issues of their conflict and/or dispute, and resolve their divorce outside of court and only their paperwork would need to go to Court.

Based upon an article by Rachelle Blidner,
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These 14 Candid Photos Show What Life Was Like In New York In The 1920s

Posted On: September 21, 2021

I don’t know about you, but I absolutely love looking at old photos of people and places in past time periods.  I sometimes contemplate what it was like to live in that time period.  When I am at a location or historic place that has been around for centuries, I often think about what that building or geographic place may have seen over time and if these places could speak to us, what they would tell us about those who came before and how things have changed.  You can stand at a place or in a building that has seen multitudes of generations pass by.

This article has some amazing photos from the 1920s, especially some great shots of New York.  It's amazing how the world has changed and how technology has changed and sped things up - truly how life has changed.  Just look at the difference in your own lifetime and if you have children or nieces and nephews, how different their lives are from yours at their age.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Lisa Sammons,
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7 Serious Red Flags That Show Up During Your First Fight As A New Couple

Posted On: September 13, 2021

Whether you are looking for a lifetime partner or a significant long term relationship, you need to pay attention to red flags that show themselves in a relationship.  Conflict and disagreement are not necessarily a red flag in and of itself.  How conflicts are handled, what happens, and how you and your partner behave when you experience these obstacles can be very telling. 

Everyone experiences conflict, whether it’s with family, friends or even acquaintances.  It is truly unavoidable.  However, in your most personal primary relationships, especially with the partner in your life, you have the choice on how you decide to resolve conflict in your relationship. 

In addition to the excitement of dating someone new, you really have to pay attention to how your partner behaves after a conflict.  Remember, don’t be so blinded by the excitement that you chose to make excuses and not really examine what should be looked at as a red flag.

This article discusses several red flags that are very telling when exposed in a new relationship.  In looking at these seven red flags, what should be striking is how it involves how this partner chooses to interact and treat YOU.  Is it with open and honest communication?  Is it with respect for your feelings?

What are some red flags you have learned to look for? 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Orna and Matthew Walters,
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San Francisco Home of Lesbian Pioneers/Activists Phyllis Lyon & Del Martin To Be Protected

Posted On: September 07, 2021

I was extremely touched and happy when I read this in a news clip in my favorite American Grass Roots Network forum publication [LC (Lesbian Connection Volume 44)].  It was there that it was reported that:

San Francisco’s city's board of supervisors voted to protect the home where Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin lived from 1955 until Del's death in 2008, saying the women "were queer activists before queer activism was a thing ... and it is fitting that their home is the first San Francisco historic landmark dedicated to lesbian history."  Phyllis remained in the home until her passing in 2020, and then it was sold for probable redevelopment.  Lesbian historian Shayne Watson spearheaded the preservation effort and helped form Friends of the Lyon-Martin House.

This was exciting news, not only because it was the first historic landmark dedicated to lesbian history in San Francisco, but for many women, including myself, Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin were beacons of light and hope.  I remember many, many years ago (late 70’s), as a young high school student, reading Lesbian/Woman, a book published by Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon.  (The first edition of this book published in 1972).  In that book, Phyllis and Del discussed what it meant to be lesbian as well as the myths and stereotypes surrounding lesbianism.  It is now considered a foundational text of lesbian feminism. 

At that time much of the LGBTQ Community was “Closeted” or not visible.  Although more accepted and visible today, there is still much hate and as a result, fear.  I hope with more visibility and inclusion, there will be more acceptance.

Phyllis and Del were also the founders of The Daughters of Bilitis, one of the first lesbian rights organizations that were not only there for lesbian rights, but there to support all lesbians nationwide.

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