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7 Reasons Couples Are Filing For Divorce During COVID

Posted On: February 22, 2021

Covid has had a dramatic global impact on our world and everyone in it, especially all the human souls that have been lost in this last year.  One of the other harsh realities that Covid has had is the difficulty it has created in marriages and relationships, which, prior to Covid, appeared to have been sound and healthy.

Being Covid restricted and limited to our home environments, many have found themselves in their marriages and significant relationships with fewer places to go and fewer distractions to occupy their time.  Couples have been forced to live almost 24/7 in the same space without any independent outside relief.  Even in the best of relationships, people need some down or alone time and distractions, plus occasions with other people they interact with other than their primary relationship or spouse. 

For many this dynamic made them aware that they could no longer ignore some of the harsh realities of their marriages and intimate relationships.  For others however, it actually created a dynamic that enabled their relationship to strengthen because they spent more quality time and chose to do inventive things together.

There is no doubt, that even for the best of marriages and couples, the immense load of stress, combined with close quarters, can make arguments more likely and irritations that would normally be ignored, amplified.  Some couples can work through and overcome obstacles and disruptions and eruptions in their relationship, while other couples simply cannot.  This is the simple truth about divorce and how divorce may come about.  It has been a lot harder during the pandemic, when things are so amplified and also the resources enabling to alleviate the stress are all but non-existent. 

As this article points out, Covid conditions have acted as an accelerant.  To make matters worse for those who need court intervention, the courts have been at times completely shut down and with very limited access for only matters that qualify as true emergencies. 

That is why being able to use alternatives, such as collaborative divorce, is essential.  In a collaborative divorce, the parties never have to step into a court room or court house, only their paperwork goes to the court house.

This article clearly outlines seven (7) reasons why couples are filing for divorce during covid and why covid has been the accelerator for some couples.

Selected excerpt(s), photo and linked article courtesy of Jeremy Brown, Fatherly


Don’t Let The Pandemic Put Your Marriage At Risk

Posted On: February 17, 2021

Lessons to be learned: not letting the pandemic put your marriage at risk.

During the pandemic we have definitely seen a rise in agitation within relationships.  Some couples have discovered that they were not meant to live 24/7 in the same household. Being forced to be together 24/7 in close quarters is stressful.  Add to the mix children who are required to stay home (either being home schooled or remote learning), all while parents are trying to work at home remotely can build pressure and stress, not to mention the emotional tool the pandemic is having on everyone.

Do not feel bad and start to assign blame.  Being together nonstop can become irritating for either spouse. The pandemic has destroyed normal routines for everyone and we all have to adjust and find a new balance and a new normal.  Encourage and embrace differences of opinion and try to keep an open mind. Instead of dividing a couple these difficult times could create avenues of common ground to make your relationship stronger.

So don't be part of the statistics of couples who break up. Instead embrace each other with open honesty, kindness, consideration, love and joy and find the brighter side of things together and make your relationship stronger for the long haul. 

Divorce is unfortunate under any circumstance and what people many times do not realize is that it has a significant negative impact on the physical and mental health not only on the two participants of the divorce but for their children and the entire family.  For some the stress of the divorce can actually temporarily alter a person.  You may have witnessed a friend, colleague or family member change during the enormous stress of a divorce.  It can be surprising and unsettling to see such a dynamic change in a person you know well.

The stress of a divorce can also significantly impact a person’s ability to think clearly and function normally.  When you understand such a drastic impact on a person you also need to recognize that this stress carries over to a person’s mental and physical health and wellbeing. Studies have shown that divorcees have trouble physically functioning and report more body pain and worse overall physical health during and immediately after a divorce.

However, the toxicity and stress of divorce does not have to overtake you and your family. There is a better way! Collaborative divorce is a more holistic and healthier approach to resolve all issues that must be addressed in the dissolution of a marriage. It saves everyone involved from the negative impact of a divorce.  Your family deserves Collaborative.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of David Sears, KAST
Selected photo courtesy of Paper City Magazine


LGBTQ Rights Milestones Fast Facts

Posted On: February 08, 2021

This article is a lovely summary of the history of LGBTQ milestones in the United States, and gives a concise timeline of how LGBTQ rights have developed over time.  It also identifies and explains the LGBTQ as well as LGBTQIA acronyms and what they mean. 

The article does, however, fail to mention all the damage that the Trump Administration did and attempted to do to LGBTQ rights.  Fortunately the new administration is hard at work undoing and restoring the rights of the LGBTQ community.  Unfortunately there is still a lot of healing and enlightenment that needs to occur in our community and country to embrace all of our fellow citizens, regardless of their beliefs and/or identity.

Selected excerpt(s), photo and linked article courtesy of CNN Newsource.


In 2021, Take These 12 Beautiful New York Hikes, One For Each Month Of The Year

Posted On: February 02, 2021

I don’t know about you, but since the COVID pandemic took over our lives, I have enjoyed and appreciated nature and being outdoors so much more.  Notwithstanding that it is technically winter, it doesn’t prevent us from bundling up and enjoying a lovely walk or hike through nature. 

This article highlights 12 incredible places, right in our own New York backyard, to enjoy the magnificence of nature and get some fresh air and feel part of the natural world again.  We are fortunate to have such a gorgeous state with so many public parks.  I remember as a child going to some of these places like Buttermilk Falls and being on a trail that had special rock formations that were called the lemon squeeze and the orange twist, because it had some challenges to navigate.

Whether by yourself, with your significant other or your children, plan a trip to take some down time and get out and enjoy some of these wonderful places.