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This article shows how quickly a relationship can go wrong from the beginning.  Often, we look for someone who is interesting and different.  However, after connecting and developing a relationship, we often then look to change that person to be more like ourselves.  It's never good to enter into a relationship thinking that you can change someone, whether consciously or unconsciously, as it will set the foundation for disaster.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Sarah Regan, mindbodygreen(dot)com
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Long Island has a treasure trove of activities as well as wonderful hiking trails. Whether it's on the south shore near the beaches on divine boardwalks, or on the north shore's historic sites. Some hike for the joy of solitude while others hike simply to enjoy their favorite person. This article shows the top ten hiking trails on Long Island.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Bryan Reyes, thetravel(dot)com
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This article gives the current pulse on what therapists are hearing from couples in marriage counseling.

With all the demands of life, emotional distancing has become a problem for many.  Ironically, working from home and being together more often can actually create distancing and lack of intimacy because everyone involved is being pulled in multiple directions with multiple distractions.

However, there is a simple solution:  make time to talk on a regular basis and work out your problems together.

This may sound like a simple fix, but just spending some short regular quality time together, like eating breakfast or having a cup of coffee, can really help things improve.

People are even wondering whether they have to make time and schedule intimacy or make an appointment for sex. Please note however that there is a difference between intimacy and sex.  If things have staled, you may have to rejuvenate the intimacy between each other and know what you love about your partner before you jump start your sex life.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jeremy Brown, fatherly(dot)com
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It's extremely important, notwithstanding the “love fog” that starts when you meet somebody and fall in love, to take time to really slow down and get to know one another on a deeper level. Beginnings of relationships are happy and fun and can move exponentially fast.  The great first impression everyone gives when they are dating is not a true reflection of who they are as a person.  You really need to dig deep and find out about each other before you choose to walk down the aisle.

You want to know and see the “true character” of the person you are planning to be a significant person/partner with in your life.  Their character alone can shed light on the compatibility of a future together.

This article highlights seven other items that you should really explore and get to know about each other, your families and what you wish and dream for the future.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Dave Elliot, YourTango(dot)com
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Concetta Spirio.  A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

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The media is always abuzz when the name Tom Brady comes into play.  When Tom retired in 2022 and said he “needed to spend time with his family” and then shortly unretired and came back amidst rumor and speculation that also included he was having “marital difficulties” as a result of unretirement, many people looked to blame his wife Gisele as the cause of his stress and turmoil.

However, the bottom line is that a couple (whether it be in a marriage or a committed relationship) has to be on the same page with respect to commitment, what is important to each person, and shared responsibilities. 

Based upon what was rumored and said in the media, it doesn’t appear that Tom and Gisele were on the same page for many years.

Everyone knows that a full-time job/career takes extreme commitment...and so does raising a family and having a good and strong relationship with your partner or spouse.

Although the public is absolutely fascinated with famous people’s divorces, no one will know the true story except the two people involved.

At the very least, however, one should recognize that they did NOT go through the court system other than to finalize their divorce.  All that was involved in unraveling their marital and pre-marital assets and liabilities was probably done by a settlement minded professional such as a mediator or collaborative Attorney.

So, if it is good for the “rich and famous” it is DEFINITELY much more economical for “the rest of us”.

If you wish to learn more about mediation or collaboration, please contact my offices.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Isaac Serna-Diez, yourtango(dot)com
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This article speaks about the decreased numbers of marriages in China due to several reasons, including the extreme cost to get married and have a family as well as the impediments and costs to actually getting divorced. Last year China enacted a 30-day cooling-off period for divorce seekers with the aim of improving social stability.

I don’t believe this reduction is solely in China. I believe many young people are choosing not to get married for multiple reasons, among those which are cited by the Chinese. 

Just because people are choosing not to get married does not mean that they have avoided all the problems that could occur when they cohabitate and share assets and liabilities. Therefore, whether it’s a prenup or a cohabitation agreement, it’s important to have an agreement which outlines ALL of the issues regarding assets and liabilities coming into the relationship.

As always, a collaborative attorney such as myself can help you with this. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Fran Lu in Beijing, South China Morning Post (scmp-dot-com)
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Divorce is often traumatic and scary for adults.  From a child’s perspective, it is magnified exponentially.  For young children this has to be devastating and concerning. 

As we have learned over time, divorce affects every child, no matter their age; even those who are adults when their parents divorce (known as a gray divorce).

Many times people think:  children can adapt, they will survive, it will be ok, without taking into consideration the real effects and intensity that a divorce may have on children.  This is a time when they need even more attention and support.  This is a wonderful article that highlights the concerns for children and how to try best to serve them during this traumatic time. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Christine Schoenwald, yourtango(dot)com
Royalty-free photo courtesy of Pixabay

Concetta Spirio.  A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

#Concetta #ConcettaSpirio #ConcettaLaw #SpirioLaw #Marriage #Divorce #RealEstate #Litigation #Wills #Trusts #Estates #Mediation #CollaborativeDivorce #LongIsland #Suffolk #Nassau #Islip #Sayville #LGBT

Proud to have participated on a panel today speaking at the New York State Bar Association’s (NYSBA) Annual Meeting on LGBTQ Issues in ADR (Alternative Dispute Resolution) and how our community is better served by ADR!

LGBTQ+ issues have arisen more and more frequently in arbitration and mediation. Those issues include implicit bias of the arbitrators and mediators, and involve workplace issues, family law matters, trusts and estates, among others.

Concetta Spirio.  A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

#Concetta #ConcettaSpirio #ConcettaLaw #SpirioLaw #Marriage #Divorce #RealEstate #Litigation #Wills #Trusts #Estates #Mediation #CollaborativeDivorce #LongIsland #Suffolk #Nassau #Islip #Sayville #LGBT