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Join Me Tonight 5/27/20 at 7pm EST For COVID-19 Financial Recovery: A Panel Presentation

Posted On: May 27, 2020
Proud to be part of this FREE Zoom panel presentation on COVID-19 Financial Recovery.  I hope you'll be able to join me!

7:00 PM - 9:00 PM EST  5/27/2020

The COVID-19 Pandemic has many people uncertain about the future. The Port Washington Public Library Career & Personal Finance Center, in collaboration with Executive Consultants of New York, Corp., is pleased to present a panel discussion to help answer questions about coronavirus, its impact on our community, available resources, and programs that can assist us all in coping. Experts will cover a variety of topics including mortgages & real estate, credit, laws, access to the court system, taxation, and programs for which individuals and businesses are eligible.

Topic: COVID-19 Financial Recovery: A Panel Presentation
Time: May 27, 2020 07:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada)

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13 Best Road Trips From NYC

Posted On: May 26, 2020

I Love NY!!  Our state is amazing and beautiful.  Many New Yorkers have not seen or experienced some of the wonderful places to visit in New York.  I was fortunate my parents loved to travel via a travel trailer.  So, when I was a child we traveled to many places not only in NY but New England.  This article has some wonderful places to visit and experience.


Encouraging Your Spouse to Use the Collaborative Divorce Process

Posted On: May 21, 2020

Divorce is never an easy decision. But, once you have decided to move forward, you next must decide the best method of settlement for you and your spouse.

There are three options to consider: litigation, collaborative divorce or mediation. If you have already done your research and decided that the collaborative divorce process is the best way for you and your spouse to negotiate your divorce or separation, you must next encourage your spouse to engage in the collaborative process.

Let’s review each option to determine why Collaborative divorce would be the most beneficial.


In contrast to the collaborative model, litigation is an adversarial process, designed to have winners and losers at the conclusion. Both parties are represented by an attorney who will advocate their client’s position with the potential threat of a trial. Litigation is the most expensive option, will take the longest to resolve and is the most emotionally draining on both parties. In addition, there are no guarantees at the end of the day what the judge will decide.

Collaborative Divorce Process

The collaborative process still has each party represented by an attorney; however, the key difference is that the attorneys are committed to obtaining a fair settlement for both of you to avoid a trial. Underpinning this commitment, the attorneys sign an agreement that they will not represent you in court if a settlement is not achieved. To assist you and the attorneys, and if your particular situation so requires, neutral unbiased financial experts and/or family support specialists trained in the collaborative process, will be retained to help navigate financial and family issues. The collaborative process will generally be less expensive, quicker and will result in an agreement tailored to your needs through the assistance of your collaborative team.


In mediation, the parties negotiate with each other with the guidance of a neutral mediator. Mediation is the least expensive option and is a good choice if each spouse is comfortable advocating for themselves. If the mediators are also lawyers, they will write the agreement and prepare and file your divorce papers. Mediation does not require the parties to go to court.

Getting your spouse to agree to the Collaborative divorce process

If you’ve chosen the collaborative process, it’s likely that you want the assistance of an attorney and neutral financial or family experts to avoid the adversarial nature of litigation. To help get your spouse on board, it’s important to stress how the collaborative process would benefit each of you. You might do this by following these suggestions:

1. Be prepared to highlight how the collaborative model works and provide your spouse with helpful websites such as and ;

2. Provide your spouse with articles explaining the process and benefits of Collaborative;

3. Speak with your spouse at a less stressful time of day when there is a better chance of having a fruitful discussion;

4. Send a text or email if you and your spouse have difficulty communicating face to face;

5. Ask a family member whom your spouse trusts to discuss the collaborative option with them;

6. Don’t force the issue. Give your spouse the time to consider this option;

7. Speak with a collaborative attorney that you wish to hire. They can reach out to your spouse to explain the collaborative process and answer any questions your spouse may have, or alternatively, provide them with the aforementioned websites so that your spouse can consult with their own collaborative attorney.

To obtain more information and a list of collaboratively trained lawyers, financial experts and family support specialists, please visit Each member will be happy to answer any additional questions or concerns you may have.

Written by Pamela J. Pollack, Esq.

The Top 10 Things to Do on Long Island

Posted On: May 19, 2020

Needless to say, Long Island is one of favorite places since it has been my home for my entire life.  As summer approaches (and as coronavirus restrictions begin to lift), it is always exciting to find different things to do.

These are among my favorites...making visits, even during the winter or fall months to the beaches, is a must for me.  I love hearing the beach sounds and walking to the lighthouse in Robert Moses State Park.  They have a great boardwalk path from the last parking lot to the lighthouse that is right next to the beach.  You can enjoy both and get some exercise at the same time!  Obviously the wineries are a fun place to go, either for a day out on the Island or a short trip.  The other thing that people may not be aware of is that we have some very nice museums right here on Long Island, and of course, boating, fishing and eating seafood are top on the list.

Check out this great article if you ever need a suggestion or need to think about what to do one weekend.

Linked article courtesy of Devorah Lev-Tov of Trip Savvy
Photo courtesy of Mitchell Bleier/Getty Images


13 Free, Easy Strategies for Coronavirus Stress Management

Posted On: May 11, 2020

We all could use tips to reduce our stress at this time and it helps to take positive actions that we have control over.  Doing some simple things can help us cope and stay healthy, as stress can have an eroding effect on our health.

Selected excerpt(s), and linked article courtesy of Caitlin Constantine/The Penny Hoarder
Selected photo courtesy of Chris Zuppa/The Penny Hoarder


Friendly Exes Self-Quarantine Under One Roof For Kids: 'This is the best way to be divorced'

Posted On: May 05, 2020

This article was a joy to read and so uplifting!  Divorcees decide to do what's best for their child and extended family by getting out of the city and self-sheltering together. I am sure it has its challenges but what a testament to doing the right thing for your kids and the "family".  Bravo!

Photo courtesy of Denise Albert.