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Why do lesbian couples tend to have higher divorce rates than their gay and straight peers? That’s the question that a new Finnish study sets out to answer, and the results might not be what you expect.

The study, titled “Same-Sex and Different-Sex Couples’ Divorce Risks: The Role of Cohabitation and Childbearing,” was published in the Journal of Marriage and Family on September 9. As its introduction notes, “prior studies have shown that female and male couples have a higher divorce risk than different-sex couples, with the highest divorce risk among female couples across countries such as Sweden, Norway, Denmark, the United States, and Canada.”

As you read through this fascinating article, keep in mind:  It was how long they lived together before marriage that really mattered.  Data showed that among all same-sex couples, divorce risks were lower the longer they lived together before marriage.  Same-sex couples who lived together for at least seven years before marriage had the lowest divorce risk per year (1.9% for lesbian couples and 0.9% for gay couples), while couples who moved in together the same year as their legal union faced significantly higher divorce risks (8.2% for lesbian couples and 4.6% for gay couples).

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Abby Monteil, them(dot)us
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On the last Tuesday of every month we release our Collaborative Circle on YouTube, which seeks to inform and answer all of the questions you may have regarding the Collaborative Divorce process as well as help foster understanding and further our mission of helping families make informed choices about how best to proceed throughout any family crisis.

Anyone seeking more information about how we can help families in conflict, during divorce or separation, please reach out.

Many people don’t realize that in the Orthodox Jewish religion, although a person can obtain a divorce from the Civil Court system, unless they are granted a “Get” from their husband, they cannot get divorced in their religion.  This means that their religious community can ostracize them.  In fact, Jewish women whose husbands refuse to divorce them are known as “Agunot” meaning “chained”, because they are still tied to their estranged husband and unable to remarry under Jewish law.  For these men who choose not to grant a Jewish divorce to their ex-wives, they are asserting a type of control over their life that is equivalent to domestic violence. 

The United Kingdom recently expanded their domestic abuse legislation to make withholding a “Get” a potential crime. 

In this article, Orthodox activists are pushing New York State to adopt a broader domestic violence legislation. 

It's time that all woman are “unchained”.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jacob Henry, Forward(dot)com
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June is Pride Month for the LGBTQIA+ Community - a time to celebrate how far the community has come and a time to reflect on how we can continue to keep enacting positive change. Marriage equality became the law of the land in June 2015 - and with marriage comes the possibility of divorce.

I have advocated for LGBTQIA+ rights since I was an undergraduate in college, and as an attorney, I believe strongly in the rights of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered individuals.

My colleagues at Long Island Collaborative Divorce Professionals have graciously been promoting my article explaining why mediation and the collaborative process just makes sense for LGBTQIA+ couples.

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Relationships are easy when things are going well and everyone is happy.  It's the tough times that challenge us to keep harmony - when things are going wrong and the stress level is high that really test the strength of our relationships. 

I think this era, with the pandemic and all that we have endured, has been an unprecedented time and challenge for our relationships.  It is often never one crisis or stressful event that causes the breakup of a strong partnership.  It's helpful when couples are flexible, empathetic and team oriented in their approach to problems. 

This article points to 8 traits that significantly help couples manage the storms and stay together through difficult, and what may seem like impossible, times or circumstances.  I find it interesting that the most important ingredient from the studies have shown, that to sustain a long term relationship, it is important to be emotionally accessible or available to one another.  I have always said that communication, honesty and respect are a great foundation to building any relationship.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Virginia Pelley, Fatherly
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Not getting divorced under the belief that parents should stay together for the sake of their children has been challenged by many.  The idea of a child living in a war torn home can have its own effects, regardless of a couple’s desire to stay together for their benefit.  This article highlights one mother who found divorce and shared custody to be an absolute salvation, not only for herself but actually extremely beneficial for her children.  Having two separate homes and two separate parents being responsible for their children can relieve the totality of the burden of one parent being 100% responsible for their children all the time. 

Working out positive results such as those mentioned requires cooperative parties/parents. 

If you are facing a divorce, the Collaborative Divorce process often helps couples navigate through the toxic parts of the dissolution and provides support and tools to move forward in a more positive way for themselves and for their co-parenting. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Stephanie Portell, YourTango(dot)com
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I know most of you have been seeing the reports, and the reality is that the coronavirus pandemic has brought about an increase in divorce.  Experts are predicting that those numbers will continue to climb as the pandemic continues.  This may not apply to all women, however many times it is more often the rule than not, but the fact is, the majority of the time, due to the disparities in earning capacity as well as choice in child rearing, women are not as financially equipped to handle the devastation of a divorce as men.  As this article points out, it would behoove women to tread carefully and be particularly savvy during this time.  Do not take drastic action but rather plan financially for the dissolution that you see coming.  Again, in this article, a study in the Journal demographic found that both men and women are hurt economically by a divorce, but men recover more quickly due to the disparity of earning capacity and the realities of the business world.  As this article quotes women have disproportionate losses in household income and assets and increase in risk of poverty and single parenting.

Interestingly, the report concluded that for men, divorce is an economic pot hole, and for a woman it can be a cliff.  That is a very clear and visual description of the extreme differences between the economic impact for men and women.

First off, this article expresses the need for couples to have additional help in the form of couples counseling. As in any therapy, a person, or a couple in this case, will learn new skills and insights on how to resolve issues or have better skills in dealing with different situations and stresses. 

This article also highlights some very serious issues that if not corrected will lead a couple to dissolve their relationship. Some of these issues are loss of respect for your partner, imbalanced accountability, lopsided communication and a defeatist attitude, as well as the absence of true empathy.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jessica G Hartshorn, scarymommy(dot)com
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