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If you know anything about goal setting then you know it's imperative to think about and set goals to have success in whatever you do.  Whether it's starting a new business, developing your career, or working within a relationship.  Having goals not only structures and gives positive direction, it focuses ones attention on what's important.  Even within a marriage or a significant relationship, it's important to talk, communicate and think about the future as well as goals. People most often make assumptions that things will just work out and take care of themselves...love conquers all.  However, as with anything else, if you are looking for success, setting goals helps guarantee the greater possibility of producing positive results.  Having positive intentions and setting them forth creates a better basis for success. 

Choosing to discuss goals with your partner will not only lead to a better understanding for each of you in the relationship, but enlighten you both as to what each of you truly want.  As a result, you will have better communication and a stronger relationship with the possibility of greater long term success.

This is definitely a good read and something I think 90% of couples do not do or think about.

Experts say having goals is a definite must in having a healthy and strong marriage and/or relationship.

Selected excerpt(s), photo and linked article courtesy of Jeremy Brown, Fatherly

Pursuant to recent research and this article, it appears that there are new reasons why couples are getting divorced.  This recent study showed that 47% of the participants (of approx. 2,400 divorced people surveyed) said that the choice was due to a lack of love or intimacy, either because one or both parties fell out of love.  The second most common reason, (44% of the participants), said that there were communication problems. 

It is important to keep honest, open lines of communication.  Be kind to one another and keep things fresh.

Selected excerpt(s), photo and linked article courtesy of Samantha Lauriello of Health.com and PEOPLEIMAGES/GETTY IMAGES.

As a board member, I am proud to be moderating two workshops and speaking at a third at the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation 40th Anniversary Annual Conference from April 27-29, 2023 in Saratoga Springs NY.

My talk will focus on LGBTQI issues after the impact of recent supreme court decisions, as well as laws across the country affecting our community.

Saturday, April 29, 2023
10:45am

For program information, including location, full schedule, and how to register, please click HERE!

Hope to see you there!

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When wedding bells ring, few couples imagine their union might one day crumble. While infidelity often takes center stage in discussions of divorce, deeper, less visible issues frequently spell doom for marriages. These underlying problems, left unchecked, can erode even the strongest bonds. Here’s a look at five critical issues that lead to marriage failure beyond the specter of cheating.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Digital Hearts, rollingout(dot)com
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This article highlights an ongoing controversy within the Jewish community, regarding the religious requirements in obtaining a divorce.  In Monsey, a hamlet in upstate New York, which has an established Orthodox Jewish community, there appears to be a large billboard that states in big block letters, “Dovid Wasserman.  Give your wife a get!”  For those unfamiliar, a “get” is a document Orthodox Jewish men give their wives as they complete a divorce.  It in essence seals the divorce according to their religious laws.

However, it is the husband who decides, if and when the divorce is final, and can actually withhold the “get”, thereby preventing his ex-wife from moving on with her life or continuing to be part of the Jewish community.  If a woman does not receive a “get”, she is literally considered a “chained woman” because she remains chained to her former marriage and unable to move forward with her life within the community.  If she chooses to exercise her rights under a legal divorce, it will not be accepted by the religious community, since she did not obtain a “get”.  She in essence would be shunned.

A woman is truly limited on what she can do if a husband absolutely refuses to give a “get” and many times Rabbis of the community are impotent to help.  For the woman in this article and her children, this ordeal has been going on for more than 7 years and their interpretation is that the refusal to “give a get” is equivalent to abuse. 

This woman’s experience is not unique and in fact, for those in the LGBTQ community, it can be even more devastating.  For an LGBTQ person they may have to make a choice between their life, their children’s lives and being a part of their religious community and their family connections or total abandonment of their life and start a new life elsewhere.

This is a horrifying dilemma for Orthodox Jewish women wishing to divorce; but obviously it’s an issue that cannot be resolved from the outside but rather from within.  For those who cannot wait for resolution or evolution to happen, there are woman and children who are faced with dire choices to make.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Caren Chesler, TheGuardian.com
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Surprisingly only 5% of all divorcees according to a survey by Forbes Advisors think that nothing could be done to save their relationship and partnership. 

This article discusses the top five factors that divorcees believe could have saved their marriage.  The top two being a better understanding of the party’s commitment to the marriage as well as the values and morals of their partner prior to marriage.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Aditi Shrikant, CNBC
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COVID-19 has created so many unforeseen circumstances.  For many it has created more stress; however, for some it has actually created positive results.  For this divorced couple who were forced to co-parent differently as a result of the coronavirus, it has actually strengthened the divorced parents' relationship.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Dexter Thomas & Sarah Svoboda of Vice News
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Whether you are looking for a lifetime partner or a significant long term relationship, you need to pay attention to red flags that show themselves in a relationship.  Conflict and disagreement are not necessarily a red flag in and of itself.  How conflicts are handled, what happens, and how you and your partner behave when you experience these obstacles can be very telling. 

Everyone experiences conflict, whether it’s with family, friends or even acquaintances.  It is truly unavoidable.  However, in your most personal primary relationships, especially with the partner in your life, you have the choice on how you decide to resolve conflict in your relationship. 

In addition to the excitement of dating someone new, you really have to pay attention to how your partner behaves after a conflict.  Remember, don’t be so blinded by the excitement that you chose to make excuses and not really examine what should be looked at as a red flag.

This article discusses several red flags that are very telling when exposed in a new relationship.  In looking at these seven red flags, what should be striking is how it involves how this partner chooses to interact and treat YOU.  Is it with open and honest communication?  Is it with respect for your feelings?

What are some red flags you have learned to look for? 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Orna and Matthew Walters, YourTango.com
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