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Most people are aware there is a statistic that says 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Today this is not totally accurate based upon the choice of some not to marry and a slight decrease in the divorces due to various reasons. 

This article gives food for thought, when you see signs that your marriage is not working out. Like you can’t remember the last time you were intimate; you want your spouse to change, but they just can’t. These are all items to consider in evaluating your relationship and/or seeking a way to make the marriage work. 

If you truly are facing a dissolution of your marriage or you have a major conflict to resolve, there are better ways than going through the court system. The Collaborative Process, to resolve conflict, and, if necessary, help a couple or family through divorce, is an amazing process that is not only more cost efficient but a more holistic approach, giving your family the confidence, confidentiality and tools to survive what could be a devastating event in your life. 

If you have any question, please feel free to call my office for a free fifteen (15) minute consultation. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Brand Partner Agency, VillageVoice(dot)com
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So, have you heard of “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”?  Well, a renowned psychologist, after studying couples over fourteen years, was able to identify behaviors that can predict when a marriage would end with astounding precision. He has dubbed the four behaviors as “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”.

As this article goes into more detail, the four behaviors are Contempt, Criticism, Defensiveness and Stonewalling. It is a very interesting read. My question to you is, if you see these signs, how would you react and what would/could you do to rectify and save the marriage?

Remember the Collaborative process has professionals to help with any rising conflicts.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Rebecca Strong, askmen(dot)com
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We all come from different backgrounds and life circumstances that make us who we are as well as frame and form how we interact...this includes the patterns and ways we approach relationships. This is true of all of us. This article looks at how children of divorce are impacted in their love life from the divorce they have experienced through their parents. Loving someone who is a child of divorce has a few more layers of complication.  As in any relationship, if it's a good one, it's worth working for.

Although this article sets forth 10 different ways children of divorce love differently, remember that not all factors apply to all people. 

This is a very good read, and a good article for people going through a divorce, because it gives insight to what children will be forced to deal with as a result of divorce and how it might impact them in the future. Not only is it a guideline for people who are in a relationship with a child of divorce, but it is also a guideline for parents who are dealing with children going through a divorce. 

Remember, if you are faced with the awful decision of having to go through a dissolution of your marriage, there is a better way for you and your family, especially for your children, to use a more holistic approach that will safeguard their interests above all else. 

Choose Collaborative Divorce where you have a team of professionals who can help you with all aspects: financial, emotional and legal.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Andrea Zimmerman, YourTango(dot)com
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This recent decision is very scary and demonstrates one of the reasons I advise clients, notwithstanding, that they may both be on the birth certificate; a second parent adoption is really necessary to protect your rights to the child and your child’s rights to you in any State in the Union.  This poor woman had her rights to her child and even her name on the birth certificate stripped simply because that is what the Judge thought should be done, and rationalized it by stating there was “no proof of a second parent adoption”.

This decision is horrific for the mother who has lost all rights to her child! 

It also sets an extremely bad precedent for the LGBTQ community and same sex married parents who still technically lack the same rights guaranteed to heterosexual married couples.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Sara Luterman, Kate Sosin, 19thnews(dot)org
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Wow, I can hardly believe it has been 35 years since I was admitted to the Bar to practice law! 😊 I can still remember appearing in the prestigious Second Department Court House to take my oath, seems like yesterday. 

Looking back it has been an amazing 35 years.  Yes, there have been difficult times and difficult cases, but what I remember most are those amazing cases where I was able to help a client through a difficult time or achieve what I thought was an impossible result.  The most rewarding feeling is knowing that I have been able to make an impact in my clients’ lives and sometimes in the lives of their families.

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Most people know that keeping a relationship healthy and alive is truly hard work.  But if you're not happy in that relationship and not sure whether it is time to let go, here are some telltale signs that demonstrate that the relationship is probably not healthy and it may be time to move on.  This shows at least seven factors you should look at. 

Do you truly want the same things in a relationship?  Every couple will disagree about things, but the difference is if your life goals are different, then that may be unsurmountable.  For instance, if one of you wants children and the other one absolutely hates the idea.  This could be a deal breaker.  Further, you should never go into this situation thinking you are going to change the other person’s mind.  That is a recipe for disaster. 

You are the one who is constantly trying to make your partner happy and they don’t reciprocate.  If you are the one doing the heavy lifting in a relationship, maybe you should ask the question why or have a real heart to heart discussion to see whether this is someone who has gotten lazy or complacent or there truly isn’t a desire to keep this relationship going. 

The rest of this article demonstrates several other items you should look out for.  If you feel that you are in this place or that you are not sure, maybe it's time to have a discussion with a family specialist or a therapist to see whether this is where you should be. 

The family specialists that are part of the collaborative process are amazing individuals.  They can truly help people work through conflict and identify problems and help them to seek resolution to continue their relationship or an amicable dissolution if necessary. 

If you or someone you know is going through a difficult time or a conflict within their primary relationship, please feel free to contact my offices to learn about the collaborative process and our team of professionals who are here to help you. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Beth El Fattal, yourtango(dot)com
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Not getting divorced under the belief that parents should stay together for the sake of their children has been challenged by many.  The idea of a child living in a war torn home can have its own effects, regardless of a couple’s desire to stay together for their benefit.  This article highlights one mother who found divorce and shared custody to be an absolute salvation, not only for herself but actually extremely beneficial for her children.  Having two separate homes and two separate parents being responsible for their children can relieve the totality of the burden of one parent being 100% responsible for their children all the time. 

Working out positive results such as those mentioned requires cooperative parties/parents. 

If you are facing a divorce, the Collaborative Divorce process often helps couples navigate through the toxic parts of the dissolution and provides support and tools to move forward in a more positive way for themselves and for their co-parenting. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Stephanie Portell, YourTango(dot)com
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