There are obviously worse things that can happen in a relationship than having a heated argument with your significant other, especially if there is a chance of making things better or learning from each other. But there should be rules to fighting and arguing, whether spoken or unspoken.
In 1980, two Dutch scholars developed some simple rules that can help. This article also focuses on what fallacies to avoid using. When I looked through these, what struck me is that many of them contain a judgment embedded in them, which is another thing to avoid when having an argument or a discussion with your spouse or significant other. The last thing you want to do is blame or speak with a statement dripping with judgment.
Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Stever Calechman, Fatherly.com
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