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Why do lesbian couples tend to have higher divorce rates than their gay and straight peers? That’s the question that a new Finnish study sets out to answer, and the results might not be what you expect.

The study, titled “Same-Sex and Different-Sex Couples’ Divorce Risks: The Role of Cohabitation and Childbearing,” was published in the Journal of Marriage and Family on September 9. As its introduction notes, “prior studies have shown that female and male couples have a higher divorce risk than different-sex couples, with the highest divorce risk among female couples across countries such as Sweden, Norway, Denmark, the United States, and Canada.”

As you read through this fascinating article, keep in mind:  It was how long they lived together before marriage that really mattered.  Data showed that among all same-sex couples, divorce risks were lower the longer they lived together before marriage.  Same-sex couples who lived together for at least seven years before marriage had the lowest divorce risk per year (1.9% for lesbian couples and 0.9% for gay couples), while couples who moved in together the same year as their legal union faced significantly higher divorce risks (8.2% for lesbian couples and 4.6% for gay couples).

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Abby Monteil, them(dot)us
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Join me today from 11:30am to 6:00 pm EST for The Association of Divorce Financial Planners 6th Annual Virtual Retreat, Complexity to Clarity: Navigating High-Stakes Divorce.

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The ADFP 6th Annual Virtual Retreat, Complexity to Clarity: Navigating High-Stakes Divorce, is the premiere educational event for advanced divorce financial practitioners and allied professionals. This dynamic event is designed to elevate your expertise in handling sophisticated divorce cases. This year’s retreat brings together top professionals to explore the intricate financial, legal, and cross-border challenges that arise in high-net-worth and high-conflict divorce matters.

Sessions will feature expert insights on:

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Whether you’re a financial professional, attorney, or collaborative expert, ADFP Annual Retreat will provide the tools and clarity needed to navigate even the most challenging cases with confidence.

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It can be hard to see other couples’ fancy vacations, expensive gifts for each other, and Michelin star dinner dates without feeling as though you aren’t doing enough to keep the spark alive in your own relationship. 

Psychologist Mark Travers, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in relationships and who holds degrees from Cornell University and the University of Colorado Boulder, always encourages people to inject novelty into their relationship. Thankfully, fun comes in a variety of shapes, sizes, and price-points. And often, the most meaningful forms cost $0.

Here’s what the happiest, most successful couples do for fun — that most others neglect.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Mark Travers, cnbc(dot)com
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Saying "I do" is a big deal, but saying "I don't" can be just as life-changing. While marriage signifies a new chapter of shared life, divorce marks the end of that chapter and the beginning of a new, often challenging, journey.

Psychologist Dr. Joyce Fine, along with couples therapist Marni Feuerman and marriage coach Lesli Doares, discuss what questions and considerations to gut-check before signing a divorce decree.

Have you thoughtfully considered them all?

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Lesli Doares, Marni Feuerman & Dr. Joyce Fine, yourtango(dot)com
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One of the most common clues that a couple is about to break up is when one partner stops complaining about something that matters to them because their previous complaints about it have been ignored.

They might stop complaining, but because the issue remains, they continue to accumulate resentments and/or drift emotionally until the relationship is in full crisis. To be clear, few ignored complaints are important or meaningful enough to cause a breakup, but some are.

In his more than twenty years of working with couples, Psychologist Guy Winch has identified three kinds of what he calls "high-risk complaints" — ones that are most likely to cause relationship erosion if they are habitually ignored.

Couples who stay together never ignore these 3 high-risk complaints from their partner...

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Guy Winch, yourtango(dot)com
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Keeping the love alive in a relationship when you're too busy can be tricky but not impossible. It's all good talking about being in love, but how do you keep it alive?

If you want to become more compatible with your spouse, say hello to these habits...

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Melody Chadamoyo, yourtango(dot)com
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You may think a happy marriage can thrive on love alone, but you would be surprised to know it takes much more than pure love to make a marriage work. People in the happiest marriages will tell you that quiet gestures are the ones that speak the loudest when it comes to love by showing acceptance, support and appreciation. 

Successful marriages are the result of trust, friendship, communication, and, of course, compromise. Emotional connection in a long-term relationship is unsustainable under its momentum, you need to work at it every day. 

If you are ready to build the happiest marriage possible, there are certain tried-and-true actions you can take right now — and for the rest of your life. Remember, they don't need to be showy. They can be quiet, as long as they are heart-felt. 

Here are eight gestures that speak loudly in the happiest of marriages.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Moshe Ratson, yourtango(dot)com
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Are you staying in an unhealthy marriage because you don’t believe you can afford to get divorced because you live paycheck to paycheck?

My esteemed colleagues Collaborative Divorce Attorney Liz Vaz and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Melissa Murphy-Pavone have posted a wonderful interview unpacking real strategies for people living paycheck to paycheck who are facing divorce.  From being fully educated about what you have and what you need, to knowing the 5 financial numbers that can make or break you - this video is for you.

Whether you’re just starting the process or already in it, this interview will give you tools to move forward with confidence.

Selected excerpt(s), logo & video courtesy of https://www.youtube.com/@divorce_den

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